In fact thereâ€™s a lot that makes me angry enough to scream, throw the closest object I can get my hands on or want to punch a hole in the nearest wall.Â But Iâ€™ve learned the last one hurts longer than the satisfying release of emotion it brings, so after enough pain (physical and emotional) Â and cleaning up the messes (of all sorts) afterwards, I found I could use some of that same energy to write whatever and however I want. (I save that for a journal mostly, not the blog.) Physical and emotional release and no crap to clean up.Â Eureka!
And that works most of the time.Â But when I read about some of the stupid cards (and more than a few fit that classification) available on the Etsy website, my first reaction was to literally shout obscenities. (I was alone thankfully and didnâ€™t have to monitor my mouth at work.)
You may have heard about them. Â If not, wonderful. At this point, Iâ€™ll just say that one is titled, â€œCongratulations. You got bad touched!â€Â The person selling the card chooses to be identified as â€œyoustupidbitchâ€ (not a bad choice I think) and includes this pitch to grab buyers: â€œGet creeped on, go through a heavy pat down at the airport, go through a colonoscopy and embarrassed? Know someone that has? Then this card could be for them.â€
Not a word about sexual assault.Â But the graphic is a drawing of a naked woman huddled in a shower. Â Maybe itâ€™s just survivors and those who work in the sexual assault field who would see the graphic and think â€œsexual assault.â€Â Donâ€™t know.
After my initial reaction I thought, â€œWe (TAASA)Â need to draw attention to this stuff. Itâ€™s just wrong, hurtful, disgusting, on and on.Â Â We can put it on Facebook.Â Get people to mount a campaign to stop it from being sold.â€Â I’d seen others taking action on the issue.
Then came the question I often ask after my initial gut reaction to something I find offensive or outright hurtful.Â Is drawing more attention to (fill in the blank with latest issue) the best action here?Â Or will that serve to increase attention and sales? Is this an issue or policy or trend where we advocate for change?Â Â Not simple questions to answer.
Of course getting more information helps make the decision, but usually isnâ€™t my first response.Â Thank you to Narissa Johnson for a tweet leading to more questions about the whole card drama.
- â€œYoustupidbitchâ€ began offering cards for sale on the Etsy site Oct. 26, 2010.
- There are 32 different cards offered. A total of 31 sales have been made.
- The â€œYou got bad touchedâ€ card has been viewed 35,524 times (over 6,000 more views than the next most viewed card.)
- Four, thatâ€™s 4, â€œYou got bad touchedâ€ cards have been sold.
You can draw your own conclusions from those bits of info.Â I thought â€œWow, only four cards sold.â€ Thankfully, I am surprised. I wonder about the total of views. Maybe most of them were sexual assault advocates/activists checking out the offensive cards. I do know if I were the seller, I probably wouldnâ€™t put any more effort into similar cards.
If you decide that taking action to remove the card from the Etsy site is the best choice, you can sign a petition at Change.org. Â If you decide to contact the seller (who says s/he has received several thousand angry emails about the card), you can add to the list, though it looks like appeals other than anger may have a more beneficial effect.
Personally, Iâ€™m choosing to not take actionâ€”other than raising questions to you.Â I welcome your responses and decisions.